I totally get that.cashead wrote: ↑Mon Feb 10, 2025 7:53 amBut then, a lot of these people were happy to vote for someone who represents the interests of the kind of people that are comfortable in debating the rights of marginalised people, one of the demographics that I belong to - and often, fail to consider that they themselves are marginalised. Like, what the fuck do they expect, when they turn around and express remorse for doing so repeatedly.Stom wrote: ↑Mon Feb 10, 2025 7:39 amBecause if we don't try to understand why they missed or ignored the red flags, we'll never learn what we need to do better, both politically and as a society.cashead wrote: ↑Mon Feb 10, 2025 7:27 am
Yeah, but on the other hand, at a certain point, when that person repeatedly insists on voting for the Leopards Eating Faces, ignoring every obvious sign that their faces are on the menu too, and cry foul when their face gets a chunk bitten out of it, it gets to a point where the only possible answer is "what the fuck did you think was going to happen." Doubly so when it involves the Leopards repeatedly, and loudly, shouting about exactly whom they are, over and over again. Like, the shit that's happening right now? Homeboy said repeatedly "this is exactly what I'm going to do." When someone tells you who they are, it's always in your best interests to believe them. If you refuse to do so, then that's on you.
As there is a lot to learn from this, just as there has been a lot to learn in Hungary from the Fidesz rule. And just as there has been a lot to learn in the UK from the Brexit debacle.
If you don't learn, if all you do is bleat about stupid people, you may still get your change of government...
But instead of Bernie Sanders, you get Keir Starmer.
Instead of Gergely Karacsony, you get Peter Magyar.
And so on.
So, yeah, without thinking about how it's better for my mental health, there's a lot more positive to come out of thinking about their reasons and not dismissing them.
They're not owed forgiveness from people like me and my friends. People like me and my friends are not fucking props for them to use so they can pretend they've earned some sort of moral absolution, when they've been doing their level best to make life more difficult for people like me or my friends for as long as we can remember. Like "now that I pretend to give a shit, all is forgiven, right?" Fuck you, fuck your feelings, it doesn't work like that. We don't owe them a goddamned thing, and pardon fucking me if I'm a bit sceptical.
And I know that I don't feel like I owe forgiveness to anyone.
Because you cannot owe it.
Because giving forgiveness is the most powerful tool you can give...for yourself. And I know it's so often preached in Christianity, and therefore shunned by many of us who look at the church and see toxicity...
But it's also a spiritual thing. Because forgiving someone isn't about them deserving your forgiveness or not, but about you being able to let go of the pain and the blocks, and make progress.
Anyway.
This doesn't bother me anymore. I don't get triggered by Trump, by Brexit, by Fidesz, by anything. And it's improved my mental health so much, just simply being able to separate out a scholarly interest in politics from my personal belief system.